Women tell me when looking at plans that they can Not tell a size of a room by looking at those same plans. They can’t “Visualize” what they’re looking at. I tell them that they are “Normal”. Most women have a hard time looking at a plan then be able to tell the size of a room. Not all, but I’ve notice most women I meet has this difficulty. I tell a man “This room is 12’x14’” and he can see it. For women not so much, yet they are normal. It’s how they are wired.
Let me show you what I mean. I give both the husband and wife a Story Picture and they typically see what I am trying to explain about the difference of the two and that each of them is normal in their approach.
“Give a man a comfortable chair, remote control to a large flat screen TV and maybe something to drink while watching some of his favorite shows. He is a Happy Guy, but the wife isn’t happy at all. In her mind there are items missing in this man’s room. She feels it needs a couch, couple more chairs, center magazine table, pictures on the walls and few more decorative items so when family and friends show up they will feel comfortable while watching those shows.” What happen here? The guy was happy, but the wife wasn’t. Same room but two different ways of seeing it.
What women bring into the mix is “Relationship”. Women are wired to be emotional and relational whereas the man typically can be a loner and sitting in that chair watching those shows with or without friends can be okay. Now after men are married, the women brings that mix item in the relationship aspect which can bring a new way of looking at a room and how it can be used into the mix and I for one truly enjoy that.
When I meet clients at their home ( Yes I make House Calls ) I use that home with those rooms to show in comparison of what rooms I have on the plans I am designing for them for their new house. The thing I notice is when I walk her to any of those rooms in their existing house pointing out the size differences in comparison to what is being drawn for them on the plans, she isn’t looking at the walls, but how many furniture’s and their arrangement. She is determining if that new room will work for what she wants while raising a family and / or entertaining family and friends.
Women and Men are normal and even though they think they can’t understand each other, the truth is they both want a house to make a home with memories. They both want something that will adjust to their changing lifestyle. The man still wants a comfortable chair to watch his big flat screen TV and the Women wants to “make it better” for everyone else while watching it with him.
Your comments are always welcome. If you have any additional ideas on this subject, please let me know. Even though I have specialize in residential custom homes working directly with the people who are going to live in that design we did together, I am always interested in finding better ways to assist my clients.
Thanks for reading this tip of understanding the difference. Hoped you had fun with it as I did.